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Profile of April
Reputation
Reputation is crap. Reputation is not a name. A name is who you are and what you do to help others and society. A reputation is the result of a public relations program to carefully construct what you want people to think. And that focus will only lead to more discord and hurt.
Who am I?
"Would you be the same person if you grew up in a different society?" I had an experience recently that made me meditate carefully on this idea and it actually changed the person I am. Not into someone else entirely, but it changed my whole view of other cultures and people with other circumstances. Under extreme stress, I ended up with some sort of breakdown and found myself in a mental hospital for a week. Whether it was the medication, the stress, or actuality, every single person, black or white male or female, young or old, beautiful or ugly, every single one looked like me when I would talk to them or watch them. Maybe it was something they wore, or their hair, or expressions they used or circumstances they related from their life. I saw myself in every one. I saw what I would have become raised in another religious enviornment, if I had been born of another race, it I had been orphaned, if I had been addicted to drugs... everything. and it changed completley how I felt about other people. Everyone is worthy of diginity and respect and everyone is worthy of happiness. Who we think we are may be somewhat molded by our ideas of whom we want to be, but it is also our enviornment and I think to a large extent it is how to react to the things we face in our enviornment. And I believe it is ever-changing.
Maybe?
For example, one passage says 'the one who has died has been acquitted of his sin.' In this case, how can he repent? But the living...? If someone has sinned against me, I can forgive merely in the sense that I can refuse to hold on to resentment, but the actualy 'forgiveness' is not mine to offer. In this case, he must stand before his own judge. So I suppose between people it can be 'resolved' so that there can be a peacefulness, but the rest is up to someone higher than me.
Meaning.
Meaningful? Yes, I've done something meaningful... I've cried out because of injustice; I've begged for an ear; I've listened to justifications and I've questioned 'procedure'. I've read the fine print. I've seen the pain in others and tried to speak their pain and pray for their relief. I've given up everything I have for love and justice and truth and freedom. And I've fed on hope. It's all I have and all I can live for.
Yes.
The visual imprints a long-lasting picture on the mind and forces prolonged consideration. I used to be in marketing and I would ponder a long time the graphics and the lines to use in an ad. Even my own work impacted me because I had to consider the weaknesses of the consumer I was trying to influence. And in the field I worked, greed was the motivator for the sell; and competition. It impacted me and helped me to be more responsible.... I quit. Because it bothered my conscience to exploit people that way.
Well...
Well, if it IS Halloween, maybe the soliders are protecting the child from all the evil spirits lurking that day. Then he can make it safely down the street to the next year. Since he has on the costume, it's possible his peripheral vision is blocked and he doesn't even know that he's being protected. He's just happy he has the balloon and the onions. He's likely unaware that there are even soliders up there on the sidewalk. And if this theory is likely, then the photo could have been taken on the street of any town in the world!
Escape route
It would be right to let him live his last days in terrible pain if that's what he wanted. Being with his family and friends may make the pain worthwhile to him. People in a great deal of emotional pain may choose to end their own suffering (especially if they have no friends or family) by means of suicide. Is that ok? Why would it be ok for "us" to decide to end someone's suffering while most are quite critical of the one in emotional pain who decides for himself to do just that.
Environment
'Normal' is the opinion of others around us. So I guess a normal human would be one that is like those around it; one who mirrors the popular; one who doesn't rock the boat.
Dreaming
Maybe because we read a well-designed story sometime in our life, maybe our childhood, which convinced us on some level that these things DO exist, "somehwere". Maybe the idea struck such a chord in us that we believed if we held on to the idea one day it might actually happen. Maybe our imagination quieted some vacuum inside and gave substance to the future (in our mind). Then the dreaming became a sort of addiction. Maybe dreaming releases endorphins.
Predictions
On December 21, 2012 the sun will rise and that is good and the sun will set, that is good, too. Bad? Not sure, maybe nothing bad will happen... that would be good.
Selfless Selfishness
Doing things because it's 'the right thing to do' or just to help someone brings much more pleasure than the kudos of an observer. Try it. Determine to do something kind (even if it's giving money) and make a pact with yourself never to tell anyone at all what you've done. Even if an acquaintance hears that someone has done a good deed and they're referring to your kindness, resist all urge to tell it was you. The good feeling will stay with you for years (as long as it stays your own secret). Telling others serioiusly dampens the joy. Christianity teaches that "there's more happiness in giving than in receiving" and not to let "your left hand know what your right hand is doing." But interestingly since this brings so much personal satisfaction, I suppose to a degree it could also be viewed as doing something for yourself: selfless selfishness.
...ever after.
Happiness as I have experienced it seems mostly to be related to incidents in life that bring pleasure. But I've also learned that happiness is not able to rule all of life since there are also many incidents that bring sorrow or pain. Memories of happy moments can sometimes salve the pain and help life to feel more tolerable. But saying "heartily" that I am happy and that it "will remain forever" doesn't seem realistic.
Help!
I certainly hope so! If one's human mother is the epitome of God, I, for one, am in big trouble!!!!
Evidence.
A belief could be an opinion , even a conviction, but these could be swayed by new evidence introduced or another point of view. Faith is an assurance based on evidence that is irrefutable. Faith is much more rare to come by and it doesn't fluctuate. It is evidence of something you can't see, but you're sure of. An example would be the rising of the sun tomorrow. You can't see into tomorrow, but you have evidence because of past experience, even experience of many generations and so it is solid.
It has...
Religion has been known to be quite threatened by certain scientific discoveries. For example, there was quite a stir when science put the sun instead of the earth at the center of the solar system.
I believe...
I believe belief is comforting and very useful in providing hope. But it is illogical and senseless to hold on to a belief if its hurtful or is proven to be wrong.
None.
Good day! We're all fat enough already and can hardly keep up with the choices we have now of foods and comforts! I don't think it's ok. But even so, I may inadvertently actually purchase and consume such products. How can I know? Is there anybody out there with the power or wisdom to be able to stop it? And would any of us acknowledge such a superior who would for the greater good step in and limit our freedom in order to save what's left?
Self-control.
Self-control and restraint are valuable character traits and are somewhat discernable through our food habits.
Discernment.
For me it is to discern the wisest direction to take in life to help myself and others. The search for happiness and contentment are important aspects.
Creators or creatures?
Since humans didn't create Heaven or Earth, it's not probable they could create Heaven on Earth.
One cause...
That may make a dent in it. Because sometimes poverty is a result of persons misusing their means due to symptoms of greed such as gambling and an insatiable appetite for drugs and alcohol.
War.
Wars and especially WW's 1&2 took so many of the best men, those with integrity and loyalty, from so many nations worldwide that it left a void in families. Who could now teach love by example? Families with intense pain and sorrow were left to carry on. How can these bruised people and the generations they ultimately produce know love when so many have had to harden themselves to deal with such tragic loss. Many, too, became embittered. How can a bitter heart teach love?
Baby steps.
Perhaps pondering such questions may help us as individuals stop our personal downward spiral. And maybe our example will affect those whom we touch as well.
Is it?
I wonder if it can truly be said that war is profitable. It seems to leave nations with tremendous deficits, not the least of which is human lives.
Some students cheat...
Some students cheat probably for the same reason that some businessmen cheat, to receive what they have not earned (or cannot earn) by their own effort and ability.
Ignorance.
Because they do not see or cannot understand that the truth could serve them better.
Ignore-ance.
To refuse to take knowledge to heart. Not naivety, which hasn't yet been in touch with knowledge; but a determined effort to shove it aside when presented.
Prodgeny.
One dictionary defintion for child is "a male or female offspring." Perhaps they act like children because they have parents.
Yes.
One definition is "to petition for help or support." So, yes you can. Another word the dictionary uses is 'solicit." And you can do that, too.
Consequences.
Sometimes we can only chose the right ones because we have chosen the wrong ones. Experience and consequences can teach us; but I doubt anyone has the ability to always make the right choice right out of the box. If you're young and haven't yet made many "wrong" or hurtful choices, maybe you can try to look at how certain choices you're facing have already affected others who have chosen that road. If it hasn't turned out well for them, you might find that it's wise to avoid that route even if it would be difficult or unpopular. Be assured that no matter how hard it may be to avoid taking an unwise step, it is not nearly as hard as living through the consequences!
What is truth?
Perhaps it's because nobody actually knows the "true" history. Even historians and eyewitnesses will see events through the lens of their perception.
Wise wit.
It could be quite appealing to be both according to certain definitions. One way to define 'smart' is "quick-witted"; and 'wise' can be defined as "showing good sense or good judgment." So if one can be quick-witted and show good judgment as to when to use this wit, I think they would be a great person to be around.
Writing.
Maybe as they go along reading things that are of personal interest they should be writing down what they see or hear that they feel some passion about. It could be either positive or negative. Then from examining their own writings perhaps they may find an issue or a topic that will motivate them to try to change it; or even to enhance that aspect of the world. As individuals we have limited power, but our passion can lead us to the depths of our abilities. Despite how small the contribution, it can make a difference. Someone else's concerns may not be our own; even if it is only because we lack the knowledge or ability to make a difference in that area (there are always plenty of world and local issues to go around).
The next generation.
Humanity certainly includes the prodgeny of any generation. So, not considering the interests and well-being of future generations would indeed be a crime against humanity. However, these criminals are confident that they will go unpunished since they will be long gone when the next generation is left with the fallout. Guess this is why so many have been able to proceed without considering (or perhaps even knowing) what's down the road.
Survival of the fittest?
Well, IF "the evolution from matter to mankind" was, in fact, caused by greed, then I suppose greed would have to be a good thing since it has brought us this far... and IF the 'fittest' is truly the one who survives, then this "fundamental greed" should only annihilate the unfit and things will be the better for it.
Ambiguous art.
If you are referring to ambiguity as that which can be interpreted or understood in more than one way, then I would say it certainly does. Much visual art, song lyrics, and other writings are often even more interesting, layered and creative if the observer can be led in various directions. The artist may have a message, then again they may purposely design their works to shroud this message and take the subject to another idea. In my personal witings when I employ this method the work is much more intriguing and I find myself taken along into places I never expected.
Grooming.
When I see someone well groomed I tend to associate them with a higher socioeconomic "class."
Compassion.
Someone with empathy and compassion will be able to feel the pain of another; and this shared feeling combined with seeking relief may connect the two. For the one in pain there is nothing quite so therapeutic as knowing someone understands and cares. Pain (in all its forms) is very powerful and reaches out for relief.
Looking for answers?
Sometimes when people ask a question they already have an answer in mind and are hoping to be validated. The best answer may be much different from what they hoped to hear, so they ignore it and wait for the mirror reply.
Fine print.
Lately I've been reading the fine print in things like drug advertisements, "terms and conditions", and privacy policies; things we usually just pass on by and sometimes even agree to without reading. It has proved to be useful, informative and sometimes incredible. For example, in a drug advertisement it was stated that the drug "increased the incidences of tumors in the cheek pouches of hamsters and forestomach of F344 rats, rspectively, when given in combination with tumor-initiators..." Sometimes the things that are listed seem as though the hosts are certain no one will actually read it.
Yes.
If by this you are asking if Human beings act in a humane way. If someone is humane they will show compassion, empathy, consideration for others and often philanthopy. There are many worldwide who devote their lives to humanitarian acts. It can also refer to branches of study focusing on human concerns rather than simply the natural processes such a physics. Gratefully this is practiced by humans to a large degree. I'm specifically thinking about the brances of medicine like psychology and psychiatry; much needed in today's world.
Interesting question.
Maybe the difference is the conversational element. Singing is like "speaking" when I think of it in the context of a speech. Singing doesn't involve dialogue, it is somewhat like an offering, a gift. Whereas, speaking in everyday life is usually an exchange. In what sense do you see it as being neglected?
Projection.
Projection seems to be born of an internal search; trying to see into one's self through the self of another. If this, in fact, leads to projection, then perhaps somehow knowing clearly the inner self would help one to differentiate their own self from another. But in this search, sometimes projection may occur initially for one to identify familiar parts inside. (It seems we all meet someone along the way who shares an important element of personality that we need to see.)
Safety
No place is "free from harm or risk." But the closest we can come to safety is probably an attitude of perpetual contentment. To be able to arrive at a state of mind where what we have, at any given time, is what we want is a good start. And understanding that in life this is ever-changing. Then risking material possessions or even relationships would not be as much a disaster. With regard to harm; learning to be content merely breathing could help one feel somewhat more secure even when physical safety or health are threatened. And a step further: learning not to fear death could help one feel content to rest even when facing the prospect of no longer breathing. If this seems too strenuous an effort, remember that arranging affairs to physically move to some remote geographical location where there seems less a chance of harm would also require effort. And even then, we're all faced with the basic truth that "wherever you run, there you are."
Humility and compassion.
There's something about health that seems to make humans feel a bit like being at the top of the heap; the fittest, a superiority of sorts. In health we may look at those suffering illness as weaker creatures, and maybe not quite so worthy. Illness forces us to face our own weakness and mortality; the equality of the human race. When we experience recovery we can use what we have learned to show more humility and compassion toward others.
Towers.
Maybe these 'towers' like the cathedrals are so much like Babel; to make a famous name for the builders rather than The God. The reports of the times of Jesus said the leaders were "money lovers" and when the people followed him, they became jealous with a murderous envy. They feared the Romans would take away their 'place' and their nation if the people really followed his teachings. Maybe the church wants to appear to represent his simple unassuming teaching because of its appeal to the people; but perhaps its real motive is the same as it was back then: renown.
Connection.
Sometimes I think we ask questions to connect with the mind of another; for that other mind to show us inside itself.
What duty?
"malinger - to pretend illness to avoid duty." (Merriam-Webster) At first glance the answer seems obvious; honesty, sense of responsibility... But with more thought, it seems that the ethical issues expand depending on the "duty" involved. What duty is being avoided and why? Perhaps it is military duty and my feelings have changed dramatically toward the 'cause' that I once championed. On closer inspection I have discovered that I can no longer support the motivations for the conflict and that I no longer want to be involved in harming innocent people. If under these circumstances I feign illness to avoid duty, then the damage to my personal integrity may be significant. In this situation, I find myself the "guest of Phalaris" who has been given the assignment by the emperor to stoke the fire. Although voicing my true feelings on the matter will certainly bring the wrath of the emperor, I have stood up for myself and for the well-being of others. Perhaps ultimately even dying for what I believe in. But my ethics lead me to choose to die for something I believe in rather than a cause I can no longer support. I have demonstrated my conviction and maintain my dignity.
Merriam-Webster
1: an injurious, unfair or unjust act. INJURE, HARM 2: a violation of the legal rights of another person
Rochefoucauld
"There is no disguise which can for long conceal love where it exists or simulate it where it does not."
Lovely.
What an inspiring question! "What beauty can we see in memories kept hidden?" Does it not cause the mind to wander about? A question posted on this site more than two years ago and yet no response.... Of course, I can't create a concrete response myself, but what a beautiful question! Anybody...?
Love
It would beg all of its children to remember they are all siblings and beseach them to love each other, not to hurt each other, just to show love...
You win.
I have to agree with thedoc on this one (even though he's a know-it-all).... Robots are people, too...
Are you sure?
Maybe I'm misunderstanding your question, but it sounds like the polar opposite of socialism....
Warfare.
They expect that they will be protected and their rights will be preserved by those who are actually fighting in the war. And they have the right to expect this. The government has been designed for this very reason, to protect its citizens and to punish those whose intent is to harm others. Is there a modern war where these rights are respected? For the most part, I would say 'no'. But a government that genuinely is there for the good of its people will protect civilians and demand retribution when they are harmed. And this government will likewise have the power to do so.
Evil.
One definition for parasite is "being a guided missile." So I'd say that there are many 'smart' parasites; destructive and hurtful. Name it? Termite?
Songs.
I think young people should learn early on to really experience music and song. Songs make a strong impression on othe heart and mind, but so many people don't pay attention to the words. Songs speak to the heart so strongly that they encourage action and spark desire. There is quite a lot of wisdom and knowledge right in front of our ears and most of us ignore it as background music.
Today's response.
My first response would be to say the Bible, but that's no really fair since it is a compilation of many books. Within that library, I'd have to say off hand that the most significant for me personally in self-awareness and changing of my life was probably Ezekiel.
Freedom.
In a sense it symbolizes freedom for people in America, not just black people. I say this because in order for the nation to have elected him, they had to have been freed to a degree from their own prejudices.
My life.
Lately I have been reading back over my life. It has been inspiring to be reminded of times when I felt a strong determination to carry on or when I arrived at important conclusions that took me in a different direction. Without such reflection it is easy to fall back into unhealthy patterns.
Simple slavery.
Sophisticated: "complex." Not really. I'd say it's pretty simple, actually. Voluntary slavery. I read something interesting about this: "Normal is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work and driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for, in order to get to the job you need to pay for the clothes and the car and the house you leave vacant all day so you can afford to live in it." --Ellen Goodman
Why me?
My first curiosity would be, Why was I chosen as one to be encountered? Because I don't think you'd just 'bump' into an extaterrestrial being accidentially. I would be interested in their perspective as to our overall state of affairs down here (are we worth saving). And I'd like to know how I could best serve as a part of the solution rather than the problem.
Open secret.
Because it engages so many of the senses. It enwraps the entire being and can invoke feeling, memory, and dreams. As well, because it poses as entertainment its message can be presented unedited. Many, though enjoying music, do not view it seriously, so it may be used to reach the intended object and can fall on deaf ears at the same time. Hundreds can hear a performance and only the intended may actually hear the message. It is very much like openly revealing a secret that no one else can hear.
Round and round and round we go....
Probably the same thing that would happen if banks simply forgave the debts of poor people.... they would incur debt all over again and the cycle would simply repeat itself.
Who do we think we are?
"We" cannot eradicate racism because we do not have power over the internal inclination of others. Racism is deeply imbedded in the psyche of individuals and cultures. Perhaps "we" cannot produce a system of justice because we ourselves are unjust.
The compassion of God.
Well, if he was simply paranoid then I find it quite comforting that God has tremendous compassion for the neurotics among us since the account goes on the say that God sent his angel and stopped him before he actually killed his son.
Name one...
Distressing problem, isn't it? I am disappointed to learn that the clothing manufacturers, soft drink companies, tire manufacturers, home improvement companies, candy makers, dairy farmers (not to mention all the other farmers), automobile manufacturers, drug companies, attorneys, newspaper reporters, book publishers, theologians, etc., etc., etc., all have the "end message" of "making money and not the future welfare or growth of the consumer." Quite a mess we've gotten ourselves into, isn't it?
Science and truth.
Science has exposed many truths that benefit humans. Problems arise when the knowledge is used for harm or hegemony ("domination" according to my dictionary).
To where....
Do you genuinely want to leave this planet? And if you leave this planet, where will you go?
Passion.
Your art will make its own impact. Your art will speak your passion, whatever it is. And this passion will be your message. You may think you have nothing to say, but your art will speak for you. Passion is contagious and one of mankind's great needs.
Possibly.
Sounds promising. If not for actual 'change', at least for dialogue and awareness.
Discussion.
Many problems are so intricate that discussion is necessary to be able to break them up into solvable increments; therefore effort is often being invested in the underlying aspects. It may appear as though little is being done, but it takes time and patience to find the center of a knot and untangle it. Those involved in the discussion may be limited in their wisdom or ability to solve the problem, but their contribution to its exposure has value as well.
Gibran.
" 'Write upon my gravestone: Here lie the remains of him who wrote his name on heaven's face in letters of fire. ' "
Get help.
Sometimes they nag us because we can't reach them. You probably need someone else to help.
Shared reality.
I sometimes doubt the evidence of my senses because it's unlikely that others around me would believe my senses had experienced such. Maybe I judge my reality by the reality of others, thus denying my own reality. Proof of the truth of my reallity would seem to be a need to be acknowledged as such by someone I trust and respect. It probably shouldn't be this way, but there are some things that the mind has a tough time wrapping itself around.
Forgiveness and healing.
I agree completely. And to me, forgivenes sometimes simply means letting go of the need for any sort of retribution; to put that in the hands of someone who knows perfect justice. There's a peacefulness in this approach that allows psychic energy to be focused on healing. I think, however, that it's very important that a person allow himself to acknowledge that the hurtfulness was wrong. Sometimes people think to forgive means to somehow justify the injury. This can be very harmful and may even lead to the victim accepting personal guilt.
Great question !
I love this question! Clearly education is required to provide a truly satisfying and accurate answer to a question. Regarding questioning: It seems that knowledge (education), though obviously incomplete, is what often inspires questioning.
No.
Since 'human nature' represents something all humans have in common, I would say no. Lying is certainly common, but not something everyone does. Human nature would probably be more like eating, drinking and sleeping...
Rhetorical?
They can lead to private reverie and open new paths, or simply cause an emotional response. I suspect most questions not only have a quest, though sometimes shrouded, but also evoke an answer, though perhaps silent. Whether we are aware of it or not, most likely the question has been answered.
One option
Regarding writing I was once told that one writes, in part, to discover what one thinks. It makes sense to me. I have no experience with other art forms.
Yes
Especially non-essentials. My recreation is mostly reading. I used to eat out at restaurants several times a week, now we've limiited it to about once a month. I've established a food budget and weekly menus to stay on budget. I've decided to be content with my clothes and so no longer shop for recreation. I combine errands and only use the car when necessary. Hmmm... guess I'm tumbling the economy single-handedly.
Old friend
It would be tough. I've had my car 16 years and haven't had a payment for 11 years. It has 330,000 miles and I hope it gets 330,000 more before it dies. It's a 5-speed and gets 30 mpg, so it's economical that way, too.
Yes
Seems as though stress can contribute to obesity in several ways. Check out this website: http://stress.about.com/od/stresshealth/a/weightgain.htm
Definition
Maybe because they are seeking happiness as an end in itself (the ultimate goal) instead of what it really is: the end result of contentment, accomplishment, meaning...
North AMERICA
Since you view the entire continent as 'America', does that not also include Montreal? Have "you just accepted the dependance" or are you fighting this slavery? How?
Early environment
So much of the enviornmental impact occurs very early in life, likely before school begins. Perhaps classes on parenting could be helpful.
Existence vs. life
I think the moment of meeting someone among the six billion is the difference between merely existing and actually living.
Praise
Yes, I love it. And if it is of his own creation, I'd love to hear expressions of the ideas mentioned below.
I think so.
Visualize a couple figure skating. They are separate yet equal; they are one. Now imagine their ankles tied together. See them fused... Separate is defintely the better choice.
Bigotry
"Bigotry tries to keep truth safe in its hand with a grip that kills it." --Tagore
Probably
I suppose it's been proven that zero-sum decisions ultimately do not lead to growth, for either side. So an awareness that our decisions are all either on a zero- or non-zero-sum path should help us make wiser choices. I find this very enlightening. Reflecting on my own "irrevocable decisons," this question also made me recognize the "irrational rationalizations" I've often employed. I guess it's somewhat like playing chess; taking the time and effort to look ahead several moves before you act, or like developing a pro and con list before making a final decision.
Apostles
First, they'd have to be persons I was acquainted with already. There are simply too many people in the world to choose randomly. I think next I would spend some time with them with that very goal in mind. It would need to be enough time for us both to become comfortable so that the real person could surface. I would share bits of myself and see the reactions. After I had done that sufficiently, I would consider which of the persons seem most loyal and trustworthy. Finally, I'd consult someone whose opinion I respect and confide my potential choices and see if they viewed my decision as wise; I'd listen to their input. If you're including people on the internet to interview with regard to being one of the twelve, I'd have to follow the same steps as above. I suppose I'd ask what personality traits they find most define a trustworthy person. I believe most people would in someway describe traits they see themselves as possessing. Even if they don't display the quality well, at least they value it and may be pursuing it. And from all that, I'd try to deduce whether I wanted to be known by that person. P.S. I'd ask doc why he's so sure he's always right. :)
Evil
I don't think people who are inherently evil are aware of it. There seem to be some biological factors involved in disorders like anti-social personality disorder, but even when the precursors are environmental, they are often established very early in life and become entrenched in the personality. The inclination toward hurtfulness becomes the person's nature and disarms the natural conscience. Such a person without conscience would not have awareness that an action was hurtful either prior to or after the fact. But I do not think humans as a whole are inherently evil. I think if we have the consciousness of resisting an evil (hurtful) desire, then the evil is not inherent and we have a responsibility to resisit it. Not resisting evil then becomes a choice with conscious consequences. This would leave room for those of us who commit thoughtless (unconscious) acts that hurt others. Nevertheless, if we are confronted with the reality of our hurtfulness, most will at least feel a twinge of guilt. Guilt can be a teacher and a deterrent.
Everyone Is Someone
Being part of the group does not determine one's "someone"ness. Feelings of worthlessness are often germinated in or reinforced by the group. Choosing to be outside is sometimes necessary in order to maintain selfhood.
Truth hurts
I think we seek truth because within ourselves we are incomplete without it. Truth speaks to our soul. Until we find it, we sense a void and experience conflict. Truth is difficult to accept, because in the words of Rollo May, "to seek truth is always to run the risk of discovering what one would hate to see. It requires that kind of relationship to one's self, and that confidence in ultimate values, that one can dare risk the possibility of being uprooted from the beliefs and day-to-day values by which one has lived." Until we come to that point in our consciousness where we are poised to accept the road to change (the unexpected or perhaps even the dreaded), our senses will be too dull to see truth even when confronted with it. And even then, I think it is still a struggle to follow the path it leads.
Of course.
Let's see... someone who sees everything you do, rewards you if you're 'good', disciplines you if you're 'bad', and gives gifts to everybody at the same time? Absolutely.
Heart of life
The absence of love is what makes life harsh, finding it is the only relief.
Chicken or egg?
Tonight I was opening a bottle of salad dressing and was reminded of this question. How many of the products we use have been affected by the one guy that poisoned Tylenol in the 80s. And I thought maybe necessity is actually the father of invention (planting the seed) and ingenuity (incubation of ideas) is the mother. Then again, what would prompt someone to poison random products? Could there have been boredom somewhere mixed in with the psychosis?
Hello again.
Welcome back Sean. I think because of bruised egos people are deluded into thinking the demeaning remarks are justified. And I believe they genuinely cannot discern how their comments are perceived by others.
Maybe this will help.
You can click on the red usernames in comments and go to the archives of all of their responses and questions. When you see a thread you like, follow the yellow "responses" prompt. Sometimes you can use the "search" section on the right hand side of this page under the word "Donate". Play with it awhile, it can be confusing. WELCOME !!
Lung capacity
Deep breathing seems to increase lung capacity. Breathing through the mouth is a more shallow form of breathing than through the nose. Check out this webpage... http://members.fortunecity.com/tchbse/index/breathing.htm
Just having fun
Maybe we're better at destroying than we are at creating. It requires less intellectual input and less responsibility, because the end result doesn't really matter.
Doubtful
Very unlikely. It seems that the more knowledge (information) people attain, the more given they are to arrogance. Knowledge seems to produce a sort of superiority that inhibits peaceful relations. Exchanges on this website have demonstrated this well. Even among those who seem to be of equal knowledge there is a tendency to demean and insult fellow sages.
My favorite
I really enjoy cheap champagne and especially for brunch with eggs Benedict.
The bottom line
Maybe it's a little bit like workers who know how to build the automobiles and make the clothes, but they don't run the companies. In reality, the educational system is a business as well.
Absolution
It is probably actually a "big deal" all along and known to be hurtful, but we're told it's not to absolve the perpetrator.
Seeing reality
Yes, dreams do come true. But reality is only recognizable when we dream with our eyes open.
I've wondered
Living at the beach, this is certainly a phenomenon that I see daily. Evidently they have made peace with the appearance of their bodies and do not feel bound by the ideal body image (adolescence) that is marketed these days. (Noticing people with bodies that are enhanced by swimwear [male and female], it is invariably teenagers.) Perhaps somehow these 'offenders' do not see themselves as an object to be admired by others. I applaud their lack of self-consciousness. Interestingly when asking these questions few of us are concerned with the health implications of over-weight, but merely the visual...
Defense
There are so many causes these days and advocates seem exceptionally sensitive to anything they view as an affront. As well, many are quite aggressive toward offenders. Maybe we feel the need to be politically correct to avoid the inevitable attack should we err.
Push-me Pull-you
When we love -- really love -- someone, we are vulnerable. When the heart is open, it does not anticipate that thoughtlessness is possible. On the other hand, when someone is loved by another there is a freedom that anticipates an all-encompassing acceptance of any behavior. These two forces at work inevitably result in hurt. Pain leads to shutting the heart to avoid further scars. When a lover shuts the other out because of hurt, both now feel pain. It is like the opposing poles of a magnet and often produces a stand-off. (The magnets that initially attracted are now turned to repel.) Each finding some sort of internal healing mechanism could possibly avert this cycle. What that mechanism actually is, however, is quite elusive.
Not necessarily
In the sense of depending upon interactions between people rather than simply a presentation of material to masses, probably not. It often seems to be exactly as industrial media, only using another vehicle. Much of it does not require or produce an interaction. And is usually not social in the sense of 'social' meaning companionship with friends.
Probably
As people care less and less for the earth that sustains them, lack of care and concern for life on the planet would naturally include human life. Incidentally, it seems people are increasingly showing lack for respect for themselves personally as well as for others.
Marketing and Peer Pressure
New inventions and conveniences such as the automobile and household appliances have the potential to make our lives much less hectic and pleasurable. We could have more free time for relaxation and recreation. But rather than a simple and uncomplicated life, many become victims of marketing schemes that convince us we are only successful if we have the latest or the most expensive model. To achieve status people are willing to work harder and longer. Likewise, electronic gadgets can be useful, but the newest, the latest, models are often purchased beyond one's means in order to sustain an appearance of rank within a peer group. Because of working longer hours to obtain these possessions, time becomes limited and that leads to spending more money on convenience foods or eating out in restaurants, both which are also quite expensive, and the cycle perpetuates itself. Add to this the feeling that one must wear just the right brand and style of clothing and live at the most prominent address, and you have the perfect formula for major stress and unhappiness.
Public phone calls
People who take phone calls in public and proceed to carry on an extended loud conversation really annoy me. In a restaurant last weekend, the man at the next table was talking loudly while the two guests at his table and those around were whispering or even avoiding talking altogether out of respect for his phone call. When people excuse themselves or even turn off the phone when they get a call in public places I view them as quite dignified.
Character and wisdom
To help individuals develop mentally and morally. (Though sometimes it seems the only purpose people can see is to develop wealth.)
Conviction
This is an important question because it forces us to evaluate our dreams. Although a dream may seem impossible, if it touches the depths of our heart to the extent that it becomes our pursuit, it is likely to come true. If, on the other hand, we recognize our dreams as passing wishful thinking, then there is the chance they are simple fantasy rather than our vision of life.
Priorities
It emphasizes the dialog. The thoughts here deserve the weight, not the ego of individuals.
Plenty of questions
Just figured it out... Under "search" on dialog page under "DONATE" go to "advanced search". Uncheck "answer" and "comment". Then hit "search". There are 18,567 possibilities. (Might be fun to scroll through.)
Starting over
Yes, this is possible. It is demonstrated often by the practice of bankruptcy. However, the wisdom of this practice is questionable as those who declare bankruptcy often find themselves at this starting point again. However, "to start all over again from the ground up" after paying off debt is more likely to teach the appropriate lessons and lead to a different outcome in the future.
After the fact
When we repeat the mistakes of history and find we are floundering in the consequences.
Essence
I think Vicktor Frankl described it very well "as a spiritual relationship to the other person's being, as the beholding of another's peculiar essence.... Love is more than an emotional condition; love is an intentional act. What it intends is the essence of the other person... For the real lover the physical, sexual relationship remains a mode of expression for the spiritual relationship which his love really is, and as a mode of expression it is love, the spiritual act, which gives it human dignity."
Understanding God
Along with what thedoc has said about humans being given the ability to use their intellect, perhaps it indicates that God does want us to understand him. So many feel he is unknowable, but "scientific explanations for what the Bible has to offer" seems to me to show the things that are reported there can be trusted as actually occurring. Perhaps while the Bible tells what God has done, science may be telling us how he did it. For me this makes my faith stronger. It also provides a warning for humans not to speak too soon when they don't understand something.
History
I keep daily journals and record the good and the bad as well. Looking back there's always evidence that consistently even the bad somehow leads to better days ahead. This convinces me that rough times pass and the sun always comes out.
Listen carefully
It takes a great deal of humility to go to someone we've offended and make amends. You must be willing to make the first move. They may be angry, so you also have to be prepared for that. Then listen very carefully, without becoming defensive, to their side of the story. Always keep in mind that your goal is to make amends, so avoid being dragged into a confrontation that could make things even worse. Then apologize for what you have done that wronged them. But it is also important to keep in mind that sometimes estrangement is not your fault. Perhaps you have already tried to settle things and the other person refuses to forgive you. In some cases there is no salvaging a relationship. If you are forced to pay over and over and over again for something you did in the past and are being manipulated by the guilt, it may be time to simply let that person go. There are sometimes very good reasons why someone from our past doesn't make it into our future.
Love it
I would listen to it, hold it, share its pain, love it and give it hope of better days.
When or how?
Perhaps my life would be different if I knew HOW I will die. Maybe destiny could be detoured.
Thought-provoking
An interesting Bible verse: "Everyone will certainly become ashamed of a people that bring no benefit to one, that are of no help and bring no benefit, but are a reason for shame and also a cause for reproach."
Step by step
To go forward from here, first the foremost problems must be identified, secondly determining how waste and excess are contributing. Finally, moving forward with determination to eliminate these factors we have direct control over will start us on the right path. Consistency will hold us to the path.
Valley vision
Once I lived in a small town nestled in a very narrow valley. It was only about 15 minutes from quite a progressive city. The difference in the people that lived in this little town was remarkable. (I suspect if they'd had an army, they would have succeeded from the union.) It was very curious that they didn't seem to notice there was a world outside their boundaries. One day it dawned on me that perhaps it was the mountains that prevented them from seeing beyond their lives. Maybe that's why people can deny the existence of extraterrestrial intelligence. We are prisoners of our limited vision and can't comprehend that there is life outside the realm of our awareness.
Interesting...
Your question is not altogether clear to me, but engaging nevertheless. It seems that using stereotypes actually forbids the natural cognitive process. Since 'grouping, organizing and comparing' should instinctively occur before judgment, I wonder if acute awareness would reveal a twinge of conscience whenever we are driven to stereotyping due to cultural conditioning.
Genius
Does intellectual power (genius) not inspire a questioning spirit? It seems that the accomplishments of the mental giants have always been the end of questionings. Maybe a genius could go his lifetime without reading or otherwise pursuing additional knowledge, but it is doubtful that his life would be satisfying. Is it the end that most matters (death) or the journey? The journey of intellect leaves a path cleared for those who follow. Such a legacy infuses a life with purpose.
Mirror
It has helped me to watch for the same trait in myself and try to overcome it. So often we can see someone becoming annoyed by one who mirrors their own behavior. It's useful to think before reacting, we could be condemning ourselves.
Peaceful easy feeling
I think a good life is a full and pleasant life of contentment. Possessions may play a part, but sometimes a life of wealth may actually be a life filled with anxiety. It seems that competitiveness destroys contentment and can lead to a feeling of 'never enough.' The belief that one must have the 'right' car or house or clothing or address, etc., etc., etc., often results in people chasing their life rather than living it. Likewise, choosing a career to achieve status, rather than finding purpose in the work itself, may lead to unhappiness and cast a dark shadow on a life that could otherwise be very pleasant.
Why choose?
Being aware of the world around you and what is happening does not necessitate unhappiness. Of course, we are limited as to what we can control, but if we know what is happening around us we can make wise choices. We can choose the winning side if we know. Maybe it requires changes, maybe it isn't what we had thought. Still, we can take the right path if we're aware. I want to know, and I want to step carefully. If I make the right choices based on knowing what will happen, I will be utterly happy.
Mate
My dictionary defines "mate" as, "associate, companion, helper." So a soul mate would be a companion and helper for your soul. Someone who can see your soul, who wants to see your soul, and who will reveal their own. A soul mate is someone who will associate with your soul and welcome it. In my experience this is extremely difficult to find because it requires unselfishness and complete honesty.
Yes
History tells us that one person CAN change the world. Jesus changed the world, or at the very least, impacted it. Hitler changed the world. Columbus changed the world. Lostinthought changed the world. Thedoc changed the world. Thai Sean changed the world. ("World, n. human existence." ) One person does effect the world. Each of us are a part of the human experience. One person can change another. One person can begin a chain of events that changes the existence of others who are touched by their presence. Never underestimate the person standing next to you.
Maybe...
There's an old proverb that says, "Because of abundance of occupation dreams come in." So dreams help us to work on what we need to resolve in our lives, the things we're subconsciously (or otherwise) concerned with. Nightmares seem to be an especially forceful wake up call. Once a psychoanalyst told me to view every element of a dream as an aspect of myself. "Whose mind is dreaming," they said. Maybe sometimes they're just playtime in our sleep, but if they are vivid and we remember them, I think they're worth paying attention to.
Criminals beware
For the most part police authority is a protection. Rebellion is usually for lawbreakers. Can't think of too many freedoms we're denied by complying.
New state
Whether this is actually related, I'm not sure, but your question put me in mind of something Joseph Campbell said: "They've moved out of the society that would have protected them, and into the dark forest, into the world of fire, of original experience. Original experience has not been interpreted for you, and so you've got to work out your life yourself." This applies especially to those who have become "foreigners" because of thoughts, ideas, dreams, philosophy, or any myriad of things that don't correspond with what is typical of society. Such a "new state" will quite likely have no problem with overpopulation!
Conflict
I am reminded of a painting by Rene Magritte, "The Great War on Facades." Such a war is waged daily. Battled successfully, it leads to freedom no carnal warfare could ever achieve.
Fasten your seat belt
Sometimes people we love feel happy to see us jumping through hoops to please them. No one is responsible for another's happiness, nor can anyone really 'make' someone else happy. Happiness is an internal condition. If you have been in this pattern many years, bowing out of the game is very important. Making a big announcement that you're "not going to take it anymore" is pointless, it will only lead to denial on the part of those you have been trying to please. Though it may very likely be met with aggression from those who are trying to control you, standing firmly by your decision to hold on to yourself is worth the effort. It will likely be one of the most difficult things you will ever do. My experience with this led to rejection. Even though it was hard to stand my ground, and though losing the favor of those I love hurt deeply, it was worth it. (BTW stress can sometimes contribute to headaches!!)
Amazing abilities
Our intelligence teaches us to come in out of the rain, put on a coat, manufacture umbrellas and coats, build houses, heat and cool our houses, and even assist our poor eyesight if necessary with glasses, contacts or even surgery. Our mental and physical abilities have helped us to survive and to enjoy our life in the process.
Maybe....
Q: You're in the woods with a friend, you happen upon an angry bear, how fast do you have to run to escape the bear? A: Faster than your friend...
Follow the money
First consideration would be who financed the 'research.' Who would benefit financially if global warming were proven to be escalating uncontrollably? Assuredly the 'green' manufacturers are not simply benevolent saviors of the environment.
Worth it?
Being "worth it" seems to imply an exchange, a payment, a sort of voluntary decision. But human suffering has not been a choice for many. It has more often been a result of victimization, of circumstances beyond the control of those experiencing the suffering, or an unexpected consequence of a personal decision. The "good" that has come of out this by those who have survived the suffering and have, in turn, used the experience to help others, likewise, survive, has a great deal of value. If even one person finds relief or enlightenment by the accomplishments arising from another's or one's own personal suffering, there is benefit.
Starting point
If people are the keepers of the world and the power of life or death for the planet, it is the most logical place to start.
One description
"The three grand essentials to happiness in this life are: Something to do, Something to love, and Something to hope for." --Joseph Addison
Power of art
Rene Magritte's painting, Son of Man, had this influence on me recently. It is the image of a man in a bowler hat with an apple obscuring the face. Commenting on his meaning, he said, "Everything we see hides another thing, we always want to see what is hidden by what we see. There is an interest in that which is hidden and which the visible does not show us. This interest can take the form of a quite intense feeling; a sort of conflict, one might say, between the visible that is hidden and the visible that is present." This has helped me to appreciate the reality of what I know and feel deeply about inside myself although I may not always be able to provide concrete visible proof of it. It has also helped me to try to peer beyond what may seem an obvious solution in problem-solving. Our world is very complex and truths are not always easily visible to the observer. It warns against over-simplification in all aspects of life.
Hmmm
I'll take a stab at it... Air, water, food, warmth, love, cooperation, minerals, vitamins, electromagnetism, gravity, humor, literature, sleep, sex, patience, kindness, optimism, wisdom, communication, empathy...
Here's one for you
Hey doc. Looks like your myth / Joseph Campbell venue. Take it away...
NO QUESTION
TRUTH IS ABSOLUTE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
No !!
Absolutely NOT!! Even a very great man such as Jesus or Gandhi or the Buddha are an amalgam of many. IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD.
Knowledge vs. Wisdom
"Knowledge is proud that he has learned so much; Wisdom is humble that he knows no more." -- Erasmus Darwin (1732-1802)
Hurt
When you love someone, you cannot hurt them. Sometimes things you do may cause them to feel hurt, like disciplining a child. But if you love someone you would never do something with the expressed purpose of hurting them, making them feel pain, making them suffer. And if you love someone (when you have really loved someone), no matter what they say or do, you never want to see them suffer, even if they have hurt you intentionally.
Interesting perspective...
Well, since you put it that way, maybe it's the equality that would result if poverty ended. People seem to thrive on superiority and in many cultures today it seems as though personal worth is determined materially.
